Us: getting past you & me to build a more loving relationship
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"You've probably heard some variation of the idea that before you can love someone else, you first have to learn to love yourself. Renowned family therapist and marriage counselor and bestselling author Terrence Real says that we've got it all wrong. In fact, the way to save your relationship is not by working on yourself, but instead by working together. Continuing to focus on yourself will just feed the problem, which is that most of us developed a set of techniques to survive our families that no longer serve us as adults. You can learn to tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. In this groundbreaking book, Real offers a new set of science-backed relational skills that have saved real marriages on the brink. Using psychology, history, and stories of actual couples who have entered his office, Real helps readers move beyond their traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness. The consciousness of us. The Hail Mary family therapist for couples on the verge of divorce, Real teaches us how to speak up for ourselves with love and build solid, loving relationships that are authentic and interdependent"--
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Real, T. (2022). Us: getting past you & me to build a more loving relationship. First edition. New York, Goop Press/Rodale.
Chicago / Turabian - Author Date Citation (style guide)Real, Terrence. 2022. Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. New York, Goop Press/Rodale.
Chicago / Turabian - Humanities Citation (style guide)Real, Terrence, Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. New York, Goop Press/Rodale, 2022.
MLA Citation (style guide)Real, Terrence. Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. First edition. New York, Goop Press/Rodale, 2022.
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| 264 | 1 | |a New York : |b Goop Press/Rodale, |c [2022] | |
| 300 | |a xi, 338 pages ; |c 22 cm | ||
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| 504 | |a Includes bibliographical references (pages 299-331) and index. | ||
| 505 | 0 | |a Which version of you shows up to your relationship? -- The myth of the individual -- How us gets lost and you and me takes over -- The individualist at home -- Start thinking like a team -- You cannot love from above or below -- Your fantasies have shattered, your real relationship can begin -- Fierce intimacy, soft power -- Leaving our kids a better future -- Becoming whole -- Epilogue: Broken light. | |
| 520 | |a "You've probably heard some variation of the idea that before you can love someone else, you first have to learn to love yourself. Renowned family therapist and marriage counselor and bestselling author Terrence Real says that we've got it all wrong. In fact, the way to save your relationship is not by working on yourself, but instead by working together. Continuing to focus on yourself will just feed the problem, which is that most of us developed a set of techniques to survive our families that no longer serve us as adults. You can learn to tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. In this groundbreaking book, Real offers a new set of science-backed relational skills that have saved real marriages on the brink. Using psychology, history, and stories of actual couples who have entered his office, Real helps readers move beyond their traumas and stressors and shift from thinking in terms of me and you to a different consciousness. The consciousness of us. The Hail Mary family therapist for couples on the verge of divorce, Real teaches us how to speak up for ourselves with love and build solid, loving relationships that are authentic and interdependent"-- |c Provided by publisher. | ||
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