Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship
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“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: The Wall Street Journal
Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.
At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.
In his transformative new book Us, Real brilliantly observes how our winner-takes-all culture infiltrates families with devastating results: repetitive fights that go nowhere, or a distant relationship in which partners end up living “alone together.” With deft insight, humor, and charm, Real guides you to transform your relationship into one that’s based on compassion, collaboration, and closeness.
Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin.
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Terrence Real. (2022). Us: Getting Past You & Me to Build a More Loving Relationship. Harmony/Rodale.
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“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: The Wall Street Journal
Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.
At a time when toxic individualism is rending our society at every level, bestselling author and renowned marriage counselor Terrence Real sees how it poisons intimate relationships in his therapy practice, where he works with couples on the brink of disaster. The good news: Warmer, closer, more passionate relationships are possible if you have the right tools.
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Us is a groundbreaking guide to a new science-backed skillset—one that will allow you to get past your knee-jerk reactions and tap into your wiser, more collaborative self. With a novelist’s flair, Real shares the stories of couples whose relationships have been saved by these skills and pans out to the culture that reinforces our dysfunction. If you and your partner are backed into separate corners of “you” and “me,” this book will show the way back to “us.” With Us, your true relationship can begin. - seriesId
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April 18, 2022
In this accessible outing, family therapist Real (How Can I Get Through to You) offers advice to help romantic partners feel more connected. Using case studies from his practice, the author suggests that “little trauma” suffered over extended periods of time, usually during childhood, can affect one’s relationships as an adult, and he provides strategies to overcome one’s “maladaptive” behaviors. Real warns that coping mechanisms stemming from childhood trauma (perhaps “you were intruded upon as a child, and now you operate behind walls”) can make one act like an “Adaptive Child,” or an adult stuck in unproductive behavioral patterns. To illustrate, the author tells the story of a client whose propensity for lying protected him from his domineering mother while growing up but later threatened to destroy his marriage. Real emphasizes that partners should hold themselves accountable and “think relationally” by recognizing that “your relationship is your emotional biosphere.” The author’s accounts of his successes with clients can sometimes be laid on a bit thick, but his insights are original and stirring (“The idea of a freestanding rugged individualist is a cultural story having little to do with the truth”). This approachable take on healing relationships will enlighten.
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“This book is a road map for all of us who seek true intimacy.”—GWYNETH PALTROW, founder and CEO of goop
ONE OF THE BEST BOOKS OF THE YEAR: The Wall Street Journal
Not much is harder than figuring out how to love your partner in all their messy humanness—and there’s also not much that’s more important.
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