They're your parents, too!: how siblings can survive their parents' aging without driving each other crazy
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New York : Bantam Books, c2010.
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xvi, 286 pages ; 25 cm.
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Southgate
646.7808 R969 2010
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Your parents are growing older and are getting forgetful, starting to slow down, or worse. Suddenly you find yourself at the cusp of one of the most important transitions in your life—and the life of your family. Your parents need you and your siblings to step up and take care of them, a little or a lot. To make the right things happen, you will all need to work together. And yet your siblings may have very different ideas from yours of what’s best for Mom and Dad. They may be completely uninterested in helping, leaving you with all the responsibility. Or they may take charge and not allow you to help, or criticize whatever help you do give. Will you and your siblings be able to reach an understanding and work together, or will the challenges you face tear you apart?
Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the “old” family to the “new” one, especially for adult siblings. Here you’ll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including
• Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out?
• How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles?
• How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment?
• How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs?
• How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore?
• Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst?
Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They’re Your Parents, Too! offers all the information, insight, and advice you’ll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents’ place as the decision-making generation of your family.
Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.
Most of us enter this period of our lives unprepared for the difficult decisions and delicate negotiations that lie ahead. This is the first book that provides guidance on the transition from the “old” family to the “new” one, especially for adult siblings. Here you’ll find practical advice on a wide range of topics including
• Who will make major medical decisions, manage finances, and enforce end-of-life choices if your parents cannot? And how will this be decided and carried out?
• How will you negotiate caregiving issues and deal with unequal contributions or power struggles?
• How can inheritance and the division of property, assets, and personal effects be handled to minimize hurt feelings and resentment?
• How will you cope with the natural reemergence of unresolved childhood rivalries, hurts, and needs?
• How can caring for your parents be an enriching experience rather than a thankless chore?
• Most important, how can you ensure the best care for your parents while lessening conflict, guilt, anger, and angst?
Written by a veteran journalist who chronicles life and how baby boomers live it, They’re Your Parents, Too! offers all the information, insight, and advice you’ll need to make productive choices as you and your siblings begin to assume your parents’ place as the decision-making generation of your family.
Filled with expert guidance from gerontologists, family therapists, elder-care attorneys, financial planners, and health workers; resonant real-life stories; and helpful family negotiation techniques, this is an indispensable book for anyone whose parents are aging.
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Book
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1st ed.
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English
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0553806998, 9780553806991
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Includes bibliographical references (p. [269]-278) and index.
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Russo, F. (2010). They're your parents, too!: how siblings can survive their parents' aging without driving each other crazy. New York, Bantam Books.
Chicago / Turabian - Author Date Citation (style guide)Russo, Francine. 2010. They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy. New York, Bantam Books.
Chicago / Turabian - Humanities Citation (style guide)Russo, Francine, They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy. New York, Bantam Books, 2010.
MLA Citation (style guide)Russo, Francine. They're Your Parents, Too!: How Siblings Can Survive Their Parents' Aging Without Driving Each Other Crazy. New York, Bantam Books, 2010.
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505 | 0 | |a My uneasy journey into the twilight -- Confronting a new family passage. The last transition of our first family ; Acknowledging our parents' aging -- Return to the house of childhood : adapting old roles and relationships, confronting old conflicts. Who's taking care of mom? : adapting roles and relationships to take on parent care ; Dad still loves you more : revived rivalries, chances for resolution ; "We weren't your Norman Rockwell family" : holding the ideal up to reality ; Who put you in charge? : adjusting to new decision makers -- Slipping away : making peace with change and loss. Here yet not here : the dynamics of dementia ; Gathering at the deathbed : decisions, acceptance, forgiveness, loss -- Reinventing the family for our generation : sharing stories, passing on legacies. Mourning and moving on : alone and together ; Inheritance : what our parents have left us, what we carry away ; The sibling generation : sustaining the family connection into the future. | |
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