Mistakes Were Made (but Not by Me): Why We Justify Foolish Beliefs, Bad Decisions, and Hurtful Acts
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Renowned social psychologists Carol Tavris and Elliot Aronson take a compelling look into how the brain is wired for self-justification. This updated edition concludes with an extended discussion of how we can live with dissonance, learn from it, and perhaps, eventually, forgive ourselves.
Why is it so hard to say “I made a mistake”—and really believe it?
When we make mistakes, cling to outdated attitudes, or mistreat other people, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so, unconsciously, we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-justification—how it works, the damage it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
“Entertaining, illuminating and—when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells—mortifying.”—Wall Street Journal
“Every page sparkles with sharp insight and keen observation. Mistakes were made—but not in this book!”—Daniel Gilbert, author of Stumbling on Happiness
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Why is it so hard to say “I made a mistake”—and really believe it?
When we make mistakes, cling to outdated attitudes, or mistreat other people, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so, unconsciously, we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-justification—how it works, the damage it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
“Entertaining, illuminating and—when you recognize yourself in the stories it tells—mortifying.”—Wall Street Journal
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Why is it so hard to say “I made a mistake”—and really believe it?
When we make mistakes, cling to outdated attitudes, or mistreat other people, we must calm the cognitive dissonance that jars our feelings of self-worth. And so, unconsciously, we create fictions that absolve us of responsibility, restoring our belief that we are smart, moral, and right—a belief that often keeps us on a course that is dumb, immoral, and wrong. Backed by years of research, Mistakes Were Made (But Not by Me) offers a fascinating explanation of self-justification—how it works, the damage it can cause, and how we can overcome it.
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CONTENTS
Introduction
Knaves, Fools, Villains, and Hypocrites: How Do They Live with Themselves? 1
Chapter 1
Cognitive Dissonance: The Engine of Self-justification 11
Chapter 2
Pride and Prejudice . . . and Other Blind Spots 40
Chapter 3
Memory, the Self-justifying Historian 68
Chapter 4
Good Intentions, Bad Science: The Closed Loop of Clinical Judgment 97
Chapter 5
Law and Disorder 127
Chapter 6
Love's Assassin: Self-justification in Marriage 158
Chapter 7
Wounds, Rifts, and Wars 185
Chapter 8
Letting Go and Owning Up 213
Afterword 237
Endnotes 239
Index 277- bisacCodes
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